So I just left a just concluded class that didn’t hold and there was an interesting conversation among three girls behind me. I wouldn’t say I eavesdropped on their conversation cos they were loud enough for those two rows before their seats to hear, and they were just directly beside me.
Girl one, the fine girl and slay mama (looks to me like the queen of the pack of three); I’ll call her Tacha. Girl two looks like an adventurous and daring girl; let’s call her Ifu. Girl three seems to beeee, well, I don’t know; let’s just call her Bibi.
Tacha asked Bibi, “is bae celebrating?” , “Is he celebrating?” , She asked again. Bibi probably nodded in affirmation. Remember I was seated in front and therefore couldn’t see what was going on behind me. Anyway, Tacha went ahead to tell Bibi not to celebrate her boyfriend’s birthday with her own money and insisted she shouldn’t try spending on her boyfriend for his birthday. Bibi replied saying her boyfriend celebrated hers for her and that she only wanted to return the gesture.
Now here’s the part that got my attention and burst my brain. Guess what Tacha said in response to Bibi; ” Ehn, you’re a girl. You shouldn’t spend,” and in my mind I was like woooow, really ?? Remember I said they were three girls, here’s where the third girl, Ifu came into the conversation. Apparently, Ifu didn’t agree with Tacha’s way of thinking and objected strongly saying there wasn’t anything wrong with girls buying boys stuff… I don’t remember the rest of what she said but the point she made was that girls are capable of getting guys gifts, and spoiling them with goodies just as they do girls. She didn’t think spending should be one sided.
That’s how Tacha insisted o, saying she knew what she was saying, as experience has taught her the hard way . Then she gave an instance of her experience with her ex-boyfriend. According to her, she was always spending on her ex-boyfriend, bought him gifts on Christmas, got him a pair of shoes worth twenty something thousand naira and a cake worth nine thousand naira, and went on about how foolish she was for spending so much on him from her allawee ( pocket money) . She regretted spending so much on her guy on his birthday cos all he did for her on hers, was give her thirty thousand Naira. Apparently, she expected more and there I was thinking that was a lot (naive me, what do I know anyway?). Makes me wonder if her ex was a student ; I honestly hope not. According to her, he had the money to spend, while she didn’t. Ifu had to ask who did the breakup. Surprisingly, turned out to be Mr ex-boyfriend who did the breakup for reasons unknown to me; I won’t lie, I’m actually curious to know. I guess we; Ifu and I were both thinking She did the honours of breaking up cos Mr ex-boyfriend couldn’t maintain her or wasn’t living up to her expectations.
Now, I’m left to wonder if having a boyfriend is the new loom, where you invest let’s say twenty thousand naira and expect to cash out a hundred thousand naira , or a boyfriend is the breathing ATM, or an occupation to some.
If you were in Bibi’s shoes, what would you do; go with Tacha or Ifu’s advice? I definitely would go with Ifu all the way; after all, this is 2019 and we want equal rights and treatment . Abi? Lord knows if I have money to spare, I’d spoil my partner to a stupor, he would think I am a dream and wouldn’t want to wake up; but now that I don’t have it, as we’re still depending on family and friends for money, I no go do pass myself like Kiss Daniel advised in his hit song, so I don’t get pained like Tacha.
Here’s a lil advice to my bros and sis in relationships; no go dey do pass yourself o. It is not a by force thing to be in a relationship . Don’t spend all your money on bae and start begging for garri to soak. He who has ears; let him hear… I am going, bye.
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